Role of Emotional Intelligence in our Relationships

Emotional intelligence can be defined as a person’s ability to manage his feelings so that those feelings are expressed effectively. Emotional intelligence is the area of cognitive ability that facilities interpersonal behavior and the largest single predictor of success in all fields . Knowing yourself, controlling yourself and motivating yourself. Feeling for others and having the skills to connect with them. This is what allows you to accomplish great things at work and to give your loved ones what they need.

What could be a bigger disability than not being able to maintain a relationship?

What he did was dispose of it and go on to make a new relationship. The ego dies in repairing the relationship, it takes time, there are apologies, and the question is ‘how do I fix it But Cold War is better than this hassle..Who gets into these troubles?
Repulsed!

What happened to those lifetime friends? If your item breaks, try to reassemble it to buy a new one. I don’t know how long it will last. Maybe he will be disposed of after some time. There are many atrocities taking place in the world, but this oppression is so great that we do not even understand such a great calamity.There is no rally against this culture .No slogans and no agreements on how to irrigate thirsty souls.
Just slogans like ‘We are happy at home, you are happy at home’.

One thing is trust issues. After a few bad experiences in life, man says that from today everyone has to understand badly. What is not understood is also bad.

I think it’s as if the taste in someone’s tongue is gone. It will look like palao and dal.

Emotional paralysis.
How will one feel the taste of relationships with it? How to recognize love. How to invest in building a relationship. Humans are created in communities. Otherwise they would have come down from the trees. I think maintaining these relationships is the glue of societies. What are we missing out on?

They then tell the therapists that they have paid for the ‘hearing’.
Psychotherapy is the religion of individualistic society and disposable culture.There are other things but this disposable culture is a mega sponsor. We are already paying a high price for all this.

We all need to work on it in our lives:
Anyone who complains about me can tell me
Mistakes do happen, but repairs are possible..

The growing trend of divorce and other marriages for ‘this reason’ is alarming. Men and women do not understand the real issue. Then everyone gets upset, eats lexotenal and falls asleep. Sometimes it seems that this society is running on Xanax.

In life, we are continuously shuffling between multiple responsibilities – as a family member, friend, student, professional, etc. This constant juggling around of different roles presents us with a variety of challenges to overcome on a daily basis, however, the only way we can successfully triumph over these challenges is through exhibiting emotional intelligence.

Islam is a complete code of life and teaches us balance in every matter of life.Being human we are not perfect. We have been created with complex emotional, physical, and spiritual needs, and Islam respects all the different components of the human being equally. It is incorrect to neglect the emotional component of Islam. Hazrat Muhammad SAW is one of best example of showing emotional intelligence. What made him (SAW) an exceptional Prophet and human being was his ability to cater especially to the emotional needs of his people. Prophet Muhammad SAW knew that this would, in turn, impact their ability to practice the faith and better connect with Allah, and each other.

Hazrat Muhammad SAW forgave people of Taif with patience and good hope .Mohammad Bin Qasim who conquered Sindh (belongs to that Taif) is the best reward of that Kindness of Prophet Muhammad SAW. Islam has spread through beautiful character instead of wars.

We must have full control of our emotions. Even though unexpected events and external triggers play a significant role, at the end of the day, the manner in which we react to things does shape who we are and even the impact we may have on those around us.

It is vital that we should know about our habits which have a negative impact on our mood so that we can control our reactions more effectively. Try to avoid those things…or remain mentally prepared to handle such situations.

Try to understand others feelings and feel close to the person who is empathetic towards us, find it easy to share our thoughts with them and approach them when we face problems. Each of us has a natural sense of empathy through which we connect to others.

Being good Muslims we should try to listen people carefully and solve their problems. It’s natural when we become hurt we want to share our pain with someone trustworthy person…so our personality should be strong enough to provide comfort to broken hearts or emotionally disturbed people.

One of the most important thing of our personality is our words what kind of words we use to express our feelings for others…one must be careful regarding our selection of words ..
“A bad wound heals, but a bad word doesn’t.”

It is of great importance to not simply be mindful of the words that we utter, but also to keep an eye on the tone that we use when communicating with others. Islam encourages one to speak softly. When something is going wrong, voice it out to the people around you intelligently and politely, so they are aware of how you feel.  An indicator of emotional intelligence is being able to maintain correct etiquette in a stressful situation, even if the person you are communicating with is not speaking in the best of manners. The Prophet (SAW) was known for expressing compassion to everyone, even with those who did not treat him. Sometimes we don’t utter bad words but our facial expressions tell everything .so our body language also should be positive.

The Seerah of Prophet Muhammad SAW is full of examples showing best version of emotional intelligence..The Prophet (SAW) was able to understand the problems of others before they even verbalized them, deal with a variety of people differently according to their own personality and nature, and use tact when giving advice. If we want to possess emotional intelligence to a level that is similar to the Prophet SAW, we must study the Seerah and learn from his example.

Forgiveness is one of the best way to become the master of our emotions. As difficult as it is to do so, forgive those who have wronged you and pray for their happiness. Allah will, in turn, forgive your sins and grant you happiness… And you will feel inner satisfaction..

We should also be constantly working hard to improve our relationship with Allah Almighty through Quran, salah and dhikr etc. . . . When our connection with Allah is strong, our connection with our own souls becomes stronger as a result. If we are strong, confident and emotionally stable within ourselves, then we are better placed to help and inspire those around us.

Try to take help with patience and salah  in any situation .In this way our emotional intelligence can be increased.Make a lot of prayers for himself and also for others .Always stay positive in any alarming  situation of life.. Positive thinking plays an important role in enhancing our emotional intelligence…

May Allah (swt) bless us with ease in tolerating others negative reactions and also save others from our bad reactions… May Allah help us to follow the beautiful teachings of our beloved deen for successful life and grant us the best in this world and the next.